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Sociopaths

Today an acquaintance came to me with an issue. Hours later I’m still replaying the conversation in my head. I’m not quite sure how I became the person she confides in the most but I am honored.

Not to should shallow but people like her are the reasons I pursued a career in this crazy field. In a way, I’m glad my counselor traits extend beyond an office.

Anyways, my conversation with her got me thinking. When two people are in a relationship why is it that they feel the need to guilt the other party into staying with them after they’ve fucked up?

It’s almost sociopathic in a way. No? One consciously makes a choice to disregard the relationship but then plays the victim? Why are humans like this?

Has anyone thought about the emotional toll that shit takes on a person? Does the person doing the guilt tripping do it because they know the other is weak minded?

It’s pretty pathetic if you ask me.

What are your thoughts?

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Level up

Isn’t it weird how when we see our ex’s new significant other the first thing we critique is usually their looks?

Some will then go on to say some exes have downgraded. But how many will actually admit when it was not a downgrade but rather a “level up”?

Sometimes we’re so focused on the physical we forget about the other aspects of life that people need nurtured.

Most times we have to listen to what our partners need from us rather than what we assume and are only willing to put out.

I’ve learned that relationships are figuring out how to work as a unit. There will be bumps in the road but learning from those resolutions only result in a better union.

Also sometimes although a relationship doesn’t work out that doesn’t necessarily mean we didn’t serve a purpose in each other’s lives. I think when most people see their exes moving on they fear that they were ultimately nothing to them at the end of the day.

My question is, why are those thoughts almost like instinct?

Is the person still holding on at this point? Could it be some f*ed up view because they’re bitter?

Maybe a defense mechanism? To preserve ones ego?

Hmmmm.