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Big Brother

10 days ago it was confirmed that we have located my older brother. All my life I’ve heard my dad speak of the possibility and we finally were able to connect the pieces together.

One of the reasons I took the ancestry DNA test was to possibly find a half sibling as well as hoping to find my paternal family. 2024 has been a wild year of family revelations and plot twists.

Family dynamics have shifted drastically and it’s not over because in two weeks or so I’ll be mailing in my dad’s DNA sample. Queue the anxiety🥴

I’m glad we found my older brother but it’s definitely strange not being the oldest anymore. I’ve thought a lot about what life would’ve been like if I grew up with a sibling who was only a year and two months older. I think some decisions would’ve been made differently but everything happens exactly how they are meant to, I know that much.

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Advocate

Life is such a remarkable journey. We learn things about ourselves, others and the world we live in daily.

This week the lesson is that we are our own advocates.

If we don’t advocate for our needs and what we deserve no one else will. Allowing people to treat us in ways that we do not deserve only hurts us at the end of the day. Never allow people to cross a line and not call them out on it because if you let it slide, sadly there will be a second time. Never diminish your self worth to please others. Hold them accountable when they screw you over.

Loving someone does not mean you let them walk all over you repeatedly.

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Remember

Throughout life we will no doubt come across a variety of different people. People on different paths and at different places in their lives. Some people will be a little bit more lost than others in their journeys.

I am someone who is drawn to those who need a little bit more help along the way or a push in the right direction than your average person, but if there’s anything I’ve learned from that it’s that you can’t help those who don’t want to help themselves. You can want the best for someone but if they don’t want the best for themselves it’ll be a never ending cycle. Over time you’ll feel like a broken record extending the same encouragements and guidance just to not have the person committed to accepting the help being provided.

Seeing someone spiral down paths they’ve been down time and time again expecting different results but not changing their behavior is exhausting. So saying this to say that, when you’ve done all you can, said all you can and provided all the resources you can – let yourself off the hook.

None of us can save someone who does not want to be saved.